Emotions


Understanding people is a difficult thing, many people almost never reveal there true emotions. For most of my life I was never good at reading people’s emotions and I honestly believe that it is truly impossible to know someone’s true feelings and emotions. Although it is impossible to completely know someone’s emotions, I try and understand them. From what I’ve learned in order to understand someone’s emotions I have to understand my own first. I went through a good portion of my life not knowing who I am and to be honest I still don’t know who I am. Throughout the difficult times in my life I’ve lost apart of who I am and now I have to rebuild because I know that I will never be the same. Never being the same isn’t a bad thing because it give me an opportunity to become a better person and use the pain from the past to become stronger. I find that rebuilding myself the hardest things to do because I am lost in all of my emotions. My familiy has the same problem which make it more difficult. It’s like I’m stuck in a house full of people who are lost and everyone is locked in the own heads and not until we find our own key to our emotions can we eventually find the key to eachother’s emoticons. Healing our hidden wounds is the first step to rebuilding my new self and creating new bonds. I also think it’s important to be nice to everyone because you never truley now what people are going through emotionally.

Liliana Sapiel

The Importance of Random Acts of Kindness

img_1511   Have you ever been affected by a random act of kindness? Whether it was from an important person in your life, an acquaintance, a stranger, or an anonymous source, it made you feel good.  All warm and fuzzy, right? That person changed your life for the better, whether it was in a big way, or a small way.  What about when you perform a random act of kindness?  Doesn’t it also bring joy to you?  In order to make the world a better place, everyone needs to work to make each day for one another a little bit brighter.

Kindness is recurring, so when one human sends kindness, love, and compassion out into the Universe, those wonderful feelings will come back around to that same person.  By practicing random acts of kindness, we teach ourselves to recognize them and we are lifted to a more genuine level– a level in which we are more open to recieving these feelings.

By practicing a random act of kindness, a person has the power to improve someone’s life, lift their spirits higher than they thought was possible, or put a smile on their face, or even alter their whole way of thinking.  Whether the act of kindness one performs is as small as picking up a pen off of the ground and handing it to the person who dropped it, or as big as buying someone a house, the person being affected by the random act’s life will be changed for the better. no matter what their life is like before.

Who said that the practitioner of the random act of kindness won’t reap as much happiness as the receiver?  Nobody did.  Although one should not ever practice a random act of kindness to purely benefit themself, they will be benefited.  After performing an act of kindness, a person will never feel badly or deservingly be negatively sanctioned.  Instead, the practioner will feel happiness, bliss, and an overwhelming amount of joy when they realize how they just altered the path that someone is walking through life for the better.

Practice random acts of kindness as small as picking up litter to make the environment around us cleaner, planting a flower to make life a bit more beautiful , cracking a joke to make another laugh, or calling your grandparents to let them know how much you care.  Through these random acts of kindness, the love, compassion, and kindness that is sent out into the Universe will help to make the world a better place.

 

– Isabella Dube

Grace’s Adventures in Babysitting — Part 1

I’d like to think that I’ve babysat quite a bit in the past four years. Primarily for the same family, but each experience new and challenging. I have microwaved enough of Chef Boyardee’s Mini Raviolis to overflow our quaint little classroom. I’ve decided to share my top 5 babysitting fails in hopes to educate some and amuse all.

The first story comes from right at the very beginning of my trysts, at the tender age of 12. My little cousins (whom I shall call H, K, and R) were 2, 4, and 6, respectively. One of the perks of babysitting the same children is watching them grow up. H is now in the first grade, and R will enter middle school next year. K, however, maintains some of her toddler qualities — she still asks for lunch at 9 am. “It’s REALLY late.” She argues every time.

H was upstairs taking a nap in a cot set up for her. She is the cousin of K and R, and stays at their house frequently. R and K’s mom gave me all of the instructions, before offering a soft smile as she tugged on her sneakers and ventured into the snow of December break. I turned on a Disney movie and obliged K in a round of hide and seek. R has always been a stoic child, unless something involved arguing with her sister. She sat quietly and stared at the TV.

After awhile, I heard rustling upstairs. H was up; time to add another small child into the mix. I approached her cot, and H looked at me for a minute. “I wan’ Mama.” She voiced, before preceding to weep. I cringed internally — what does one tell a toddler that wants their mother? “Sorry, Mom is not available right now, leave a message with the clueless babysitter.” I proceeded to gather the crying child into my arms and take her downstairs. Luckily, she saw a Barbie doll and was forevermore distracted.

I was relishing in the relief that washed over my nervous being like The Ice Bucket Challenge when a rumble was heard. The roof began to shake and clatter, thunderously rattling the house on its concrete foundation. Was that a metaphor for beginning to babysit? Probably. I took a cursory glance towards under the table — a safe place for Earthquakes — but my feet stayed where they were. H screamed and clutched my ankle; I picked her up as the wails began again. K whimpered, standing up and scurrying to the glass doors that led to the backyard. R continued to watch the television. I joined K, and the three of us watched a mound of snow deposit itself onto the deck. All noise ceased, and the house was still once more.

Several theories ran through my head as I bounced H on my hip and stared outside in disbelief. Was the roof broken? Was there too much snow? Was the world ending? Would I, Grace, 12 year-old amateur babysitter, have to protect three little girls from a hoarde of feral zombies?

A few hours later, a car arrived in the driveway. Over K’s dramatic retelling of our hide-and-seek escapades, I informed R and K’s mom of the events that had transpired. She nodded all throughout the story, but her lips curled into an amused smile as the story wrapped up. Laughter bubbled inside her, it seemed, and spilled over when I finished. “Grace, this roof is metal. Snow falls off all the time.”

Oh.

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Perfection is not Perfect

Every person in the modern world has extreme levels of anxiety, and for teenagers nowadays anxiety levels seem to be through the roof. With long hours of homework, finding a job to get gas for their cars, and ultimately just trying to get through the day, teenagers are falling apart.  The question that truly baffles adult minds however, is how does most of this stress come from a simple letter on the top of a paper. When did getting a B become a bad grade to get on the top of a paper instead of an A? Why has the letter C come to mean a teenagers life now forever will be a completely a failure? Truly no one knows the answers to these questions, simple letters on a paper should not be causing so much stress, in reality A,B and C are the first letters of the alphabet, why should people not feel accomplished for receiving them. The problem of stressed related issues due to school has been going on forever. More and more teenagers anxieties to be perfect and get straight A’s have been causing problems worldwide. Somehow over time teenagers have formed the idea that everything in their life needs to go perfectly, they need to have amazing grades, beautiful appearances, and an overall spectacular life otherwise they are not worthy, in reality though, no one is perfect. Our generation has created a mantra, whose mission is solely to put people down. With the next generation the mantra which has hurt thousands needs to change. Instead of being disappointed about not getting an A, be proud of the B that took hours of studying to achieve. Instead of feeling the appearances we can’t change are subpar, look deep down and know every person’s beauty is unique to them, and know each individual is in fact beautiful. Accept mistakes and let them teach the possibility of thriving in the future. Perfection will never happen, making the most of what is given and what’s around will truly be the mantra that will make society thrive.

Learning a New Language

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When I was in middle school, I came across a group called Girl’s Generation. They’re a Kpop group of 9 girls, and I became fascinated with their music videos and choreography. Even though I didn’t know what the lyrics meant (since they sing in Korean) I still loved the upbeat music style and cute video style.

I eventually became obsessed with some other videos and quickly forgot all about Kpop, until just a few months ago I saw a video of theirs pop up on my Instagram explore page.

I was shocked. I had completely forgotten all about Girl’s generation and Kpop, but it’s like the universe was sending me a sign. The video was a short clip from a YouTube react video. I quickly watched the whole video, and watched a different group, Momoland, react to many different Kpop music videos.

It was like I was in middle school again. I started watching all sorts of videos, and discovering new groups. Korean culture and music is so different from ours, and I think that’s why this genre intrigues me so much.

So, I decided I want to learn Korean, not only to understand the music, but because their culture interests me so much. Korean is not an easy language to learn, especially because they use Hangul, a completely different alphabet than ours. It’s quite the learning curve, and I’m still trying to completely memorize the different letters.

I made this challenge my New Year’s Resolution, and I hope that by the end of the year I will know lots of Korean words.

Thornton Academy’s Cover Art Exhibition

ee6a88f9-31eb-428a-83ae-8a4ddc69ceaaThe newest art exhibit at Thornton Academy, featuring reimaginings of numerous cover designs by Mrs. Merry’s Illustration class, is nothing short of a varied display. Each piece in the show depicts a completely unique style, subject, and mood, with focuses on music to movies to films to podcasts. Each artist’s work shows a great level of thought and dedication, with several standout pieces.

The cover art dedicated to Brian Selznick’s, Hugo by Luc Thorington (‘20) is one of these. There is quite a contrast between colors in the piece, with varied metallic and neutral hues lain atop a deep blue background. The addition of white pen work also aids in helping elements of the work pop, prime examples being gears, title letters, and stars within the Paris skyline. The sheer amount of detail incorporated in this work also contribute to the clean and polished end product.

Another piece that pops in the current exhibit is Ana Pilioglos’ (‘20) Marvel inspired cover art. This is yet another piece where the amount of detail is quite extraordinary. Each individual feather of the wings of the main subject of the piece is illustrated and shaded, adding a visually appealing illusion of depth and shape. The same goes for the rest of the figure in focus, each detail of her armor, hair, and features finished to the very last dot and dash. 

Yet another standout piece is Cordelia Perry’s (‘19) cover art for The Magnus Archives. Perry’s piece shows extreme dedication, with numerous individual objects representing different episodes of the show, each one with its own fine details and monochrome shading. The composition of the work is also quite balanced, each object placed around the title words in a circular formation, creating emphasis on the words of the piece.

Despite these special mentions, there is no weak piece in the cover art exhibit. The variation of the exhibit offers a small bit of insight into each artist’s interests. Individual style is also put on display in this exhibit. No piece looks the same, and the style, color palette, and general technique reflect the theme and mood of each focus subject.

All in all, the most recent exhibit from Thornton Academy’s Illustration class is well put together and successful, and worth the short time it takes to walk through and view it in the gallery.   

Benefits of Speaking Two Languages

Bilingual individuals are not in the minority. Data from Psychology Today states that over half of the world’s population speaks two languages fluently, on a daily basis. In the US specifically, parents of various cultural backgrounds often put immense effort into ensuring that their children grow up speaking native tongues, as well as the predominant language of the U.S., being English. Research from the University of Chicago, Emory University, and CNN, all support the efforts of these parents.

Researchers from the University of Chicago found that bilingual individuals have a longer attention span and are better at multitasking, compared to people that only speak one language. At Emory University, researchers there found that bilingual people are statistically more open minded and thus able to comprehend and see more perspectives of a situation. Other findings included that bilingualism ensured increased ease in learning additional languages.

Later, CNN mentioned in an article about bilingualism, that because of all the benefits of fluently speaking two languages, bilingual people may have more employment and career opportunities. This is because ability to multitask, open-mindedness, and so on, are highly efficient and positive qualities in the workforce that could win over an employer, during the hiring process.

With this being said, being raised bilingual is challenging and requires extra effort from both parent and child. In the long run though, countless personal cognitive benefits outweigh the struggle. Putting effort into fluently speaking two languages could change a person’s life path and set them up for career success, which may not have been reached being monolingual.

 

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WMMQ – Not just another Portland radio station

PORTLAND – The days in December and January are short, and the temperatures are traditionally hovering near the freezing mark, and yet for a few hardy runners (translated: a foolish few), it couldn’t be a better time to take to the streets of Portland.

January is traditionally the time when people make all sorts of resolutions for the coming year. For me, and a number of my friends, it’s just a time to continue slogging forward and dreaming of warmer days to come as we run along the Eastern Prom in Portland.

This past Thursday, January 3, was the first official meeting of the 2019 Winter Warrior running group. For the next three months, we’ll meet on Tuesdays and Thursdays evenings and on Saturday mornings, as many of us continue to try to keep active and stay outdoors during winter weather.

One of the most important considerations for us is to remain safe and visible as we run during the darkness. Some runners add traction to their shoes, and others find interesting and creative ways to add lights and reflective elements to their running gear in hopes that they will remain more visible to traffic and other pedestrians.

Most everyone invests in layers of wicking clothes that are designed to keep whatever warmth we generate close to the core. But above all else, we come together to say hello, renew friendships and lend a little support to each other as we find a way to take a deep breath and enjoy the sights and sounds of the prettiest cities on the east coast (OK – I am biased).

One of our regular runs takes us past the U-Haul store on Marginal Way and then up Anderson Street to the Eastern Prom. From there we go up and down the streets in the neighborhood, Walnut, Montreal, Melbourne, and Quebec (WMMQ). I have officially dubbed it the radio run, and depending on how many times we make the loop, the run can be anywhere from 3-5 miles long, plenty of time to catch up with friends.

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Just one of the beautiful scenes along the way.

A typical conversation between us is often centered around family, work, or even an upcoming marriage (yes, I was listening), but in all cases, the discussions almost always return to the weather and the running conditions.

“Did you need traction tonight?” asked David Dowling, one of the coaches for our group.

“No, I stayed on the roads for the most part,” I said. “But I almost never use traction. I have this simple rule. If I see ice or snow, I slow down, maybe even walk for a bit.”

He smiled back at me and added, “Seems pretty simple, doesn’t it? Three or four miles together and we’re happy.”

I was, and I think most people who joined us would be too. If you have an interest in taking to the streets with us, please visit the Fleet Feet Maine website and sign up. If I do say so myself, we are a welcoming bunch.


See you on the roads and stay tuned – as always, if I think it’s interesting, I’ll write about it.

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The Pickle

Stiffly, forcibly facing forward, her lower jaw drops deep so her lips can barely stay pursed – brows shoot up. Usually tender cheeks tighten upwards against her eyelids as her only tell that she’s battling hard against the eruption of a smile.

We come to an artificially jolted stop. Our collarbones chafe against the seatbelt edges in the sudden halt, but nobody groans; it’s as if there is no oxygen left to take in or to let out.

I violently thrust my chin over my right, inside shoulder and glare back threateningly at the oldest two. I wait. And wait. Finally, with emphasis and kingly grandeur, “Get! Out!” pours out of my mouth before I can drink it back down.

In the murderously terrifying darkness of an unfamiliar and famously nondescript rest area (y’know, like the ones in that Netflix series you’ve seen), the volume on my voice increases intensely and I drill, “GET! OUT! I MEAN IT! GET! OUT!”

Note: I ought to mention here that, in this moment, my own fear surfaces and seems comparable to the fear I am trying to invoke. In fact, I’m speaking slowly to them mostly because I’m working to conjure an authority that I’m no longer convinced I should harbor. I mean, what am I doing? Is someone going to witness and call social services, even 911, on me or am I “parenting?” Oh my god. But they’re disrespectful and being insane! And, My MOTHER is sitting right here!

“YOU, AND YOU, RUN! RUN SIX LAPS around this car. Now! YOU WILL NOT GET BACK IN this car until you are done behaving like ANIMALS! I WILL NOT let you back in here until you are done! I! AM! DONE!” The mechanical clank of the sliding door slowly draws to a close against their young noses but I set the latching lock for emphasis. Sshwukknnntttt.

After a deathly quiet and obedient first and second lap, their tiny bodies bobbing in and out of view as they cut through the harsh beams of the headlights, I catch a sound of reality — the balloon in mom’s throat forcibly bursts air through her nose in quick eruptive blasts. My mom’s hands both make an attempt to cover her inauthentic serious look. She laughs behind it all, laughs but still tries failingly to conceal. Solidarity.

I cannot bear to let a deep fear overtake them so I let up a little.

They peek longingly at their Gram and me each time they come back into view. Around lap four or five, as they try to speed around the front, I lean on the horn. The blare works wonders. Finally, each of us belly-laughs at the startle it causes and at the spectacle we’ve made of ourselves in this lonely, and haunting darkness.

I’d like to think those lined-up-truckers who were trying to rest and stay warm, could tell what was happening off in our distance; maybe they even smiled in support — and that all of the parents wizzing and zooming past in their parallel journies were cheering me on. Knowingly.

The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry

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It’s been so long since the last time I read a book quietly and finished it within one day. If it’s not because my phone was out of battery on a journey to another city, I might be able to read through this book within weeks, or longer. I used to love reading books, and I still do, but it’s more like reading books to waste time now. I always find myself excuses to not read a book, like I don’t have time for it, or I don’t like the way the author writes. However, this book gave me a feeling of power, and it settled my impetuous heart down.

In The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry by Rachel Joyce, a man walked six hundred miles alone to a hospital, delivering a message of hope, for a person, for a wish. It’s not a path to a holy city or sacred place, it’s a path to his own heart.

When I was reading this book, there were lots of fragmentary thoughts and ideas shining with pieces of light coming out of my head. I wanted to write them down in case of letting them sliding away, but I was also worried that my simple and clumsy words could not accurately describe my feelings. Nevertheless, I wanted to have a try anyway, just like Harold in the story.

Family of Origin.

If you heard about this phrase or know something about it, you would understand how important it is for each of us. This phrase helps explain the settings of this story. When Harold was still a young boy, his mother left him and his father; and at the age of 16, Harold’s father kicked him out of the house. Harold was a child who never experienced love from his parents, so he didn’t know how to express his love to his son David, who was unemployed after graduating from Cambridge, addicted to drink and drugs, committed suicide in the garden shed where he was discovered by the father with whom he barely ever communicated, and spurned at his father until his death.

If the problems between parents and children are not taken good care of, unsolved issues will be passed to the following generations. The same problems will happen again and sometimes the problems get worse.

Years later, Harold finally faced himself and his inner pain about being abandoned by his parents, about his son’s suicide, about his loss of responsibility. Harold ran away from all these painful moments for several decades and his wife Maureen had been estranged from him like a stranger for twenty years. Harold loved them, his sone and his wife, but too much pain had kept him from expressing love.

Until a sudden decision, a madness he had never tried in his life, he walked down a highway to the North, to a strange place where a dying friend Queenie Hennessy was waiting for his hope of life.

Giving and Accepting.

There will be many people coming and going, meeting and parting during a journey. They spend some time together, share their stories, and the leave. On the way to his friend, Harold met a lot of people who offered him help, sometimes a piece of bread, sometimes a cup of hot tea, sometimes a place to stay overnight, and sometimes words of encouragement.

Harold was afraid to accept the kindness at the beginning, until one day, he finally realized that accepting was as important as giving. “They had offered him comfort and shelter, even when he was afraid of taking them, and in accepting, he had learned something new. It was as much of a gift to receive as it was to give, requiring both courage and humility.”

Harold started learning to give a hand to those in need and to accept kindness readily. He opened up himself little by little and his eyes began to be filled with joy. He was no longer the retired old man hiding himself deeply and doing nothing about his life. The vitality of life gradually increased during the interaction and exchange, and even his wife Maureen, who initially complained bitterly about his departure, began to support his move.

Sharing turns out to be a two-way communication.

Letting Go.

“In walking, he unleashed the past that he had spent twenty years seeking to avoid, and now it chattered and played through his head with a wild energy that was its own.”

Harold realized that people need to let go things they thought they can never live without. Harold let go not only things like money, credit card, phone, or map, but also his inner pain, grief, and regrets. For so many years, he could not forgive himself for his son’s death and the estrangement from his wife. He tried to hide himself, lower his head, and become an invisible man, so that no one could find out his guilts.

Harold did nothing wrong except for one thing. He had forgiven his mother who ran away from home, his father who kicked him out of the house, and his parents never teaching him how to love and how to express love, but he did not forgive himself. His wife Maureen could not forgive Harold as well, for the loss of their son and destroying the happy life they were supposed to have.

“The only difference is that I am getting used to the pain. It’s like discovering a great hole in the ground. To begin with, you forget it’s there and keep falling in. After a while, it’s still there, but you learn to walk around it.” It was this pilgrimage that finally put the burden of the twenty years’ estrangement off their shoulders.

Letting go of the past and the guilt and opening up the heart will free the true feelings buried deeply.

In this way, it will be natural to forgive the fast and each other; In this way, it will be natural to find the initial sense of loving and moving.

Face it, share it, and let it go.

Forgive and love.

Everyone is on their own pilgrimage.

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